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March 1, 2014

What No One Teaches Us About Love

Fear of intimacy isn’t a character flaw rendering us unfit for intimacy; it is part of being human. If we’re breathing, we have fear of intimacy. The real question is: How do we keep love at arms length-and what can we do to change that? Addressing this two-part question is perhaps the most direct path…

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December 17, 2013

The Power of the Gifts We Hide

Each of us creates a “false self” to protect our “true self” when it feels frightening to be genuine in the world. If our false self becomes dominant, it begins to bury the very qualities it was originally designed to protect. These buried qualities often hold the key to deeper love, creativity and meaning in…

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November 18, 2013

The Two Best Questions For Your Sex Life

Often, the questions we ask of ourselves are what finally carve the shape of our lives. A great question excites us, opens new doors, and invites both compassion and curiosity. I’d like to offer two such questions about sex. Your answers will teach you rich lessons about your sex life—and more. read more

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October 21, 2013

Creating an Intimacy-Rich Life: A Journey In Three Stages

In my practice as a psychotherapist, I’ve observed a remarkable pattern in the lives of people who strive for healthy intimacy. This pattern is marked by three important–and often surprising—stages. Each stage is a mark of real progress, yet few of us are taught how to navigate these challenges. I invite you to consider which…

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August 31, 2013

Three Mindfulness Exercises to Improve Your Dating Life

The search for a loving partner is one of our great life-tasks. Yet most dating advice is superficial; focusing endlessly upon the power of seduction and flat abs. Here are three exercises which approach dating as an adventure of self-discovery. They are eye-opening and fun, and they will help you grow in self-respect while opening…

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August 2, 2013

Seduction Strategies Don’t Lead to Love—These Skills Do

The search for love is one of our greatest life-tasks. Unfortunately, the quality of much dating advice and the atmosphere of most dating venues ranges from superficial to downright demeaning. The skills of dating are the skills of intimacy—not game-playing. These seven techniques will speed your path to love and strengthen your sense of self….

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May 5, 2013
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Why Coming Out Isn’t Just For Gay People

Jason Collins’ coming out electrified the country—for more than political reasons. Everyone wrestles with the struggle between fear and authenticity. Coming out is an act of heroism we’re all called to—and you don’t have to be gay to join the party. This post will offer a simple exercise for naming your “personal closets”, and gently…

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February 14, 2013
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From Demeaning Rules to Intimacy Tools: A Wiser Path to Love

Valentines Day can be a challenging day for single people. But it can become a day of hope–if we resolve to ignore the bankrupt dating advice foisted upon us and finally align our search for love with the tools of real intimacy. The following three suggestions may fly in the face of most everything you’ve…

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January 27, 2013
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How to Create Deep Intimacy In Imperfect Relationships

Arielle Ford is the bestselling author of Wabi Sabi Love. In this interview, she teaches a simple and joyful way to deepen the relationships that matter most to us. Through gentle shifts in perception inspired by the ancient Japanese artform of Wabi Sabi, you can create profound healing in your relationships. Here’s how: read more

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