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August 18, 2014

Research That Will Change The Way You Think About Dating

The majority of dating advice subtly guides us away from authentic intimacy. In its superficial fixation on looks, games and gimmicks, such advice sparks insecurity and encourages unkindness toward ourselves and others. According to exciting research there’s a much more effective path to love–and it’s not about looks or games. Here are some of these…

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June 30, 2014

A Simple Question That Will Change Your Search for Love

Most advice on seeking love focuses on the skills of seeking, not the skills of loving. Apps, events and websites offer endless opportunities to meet, but until we learn how to choose healthy intimacy and nurture its tender new shoots, it’s unlikely we’ll find the love we seek. We can transform our search for intimacy…

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June 2, 2014
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An Interview with Judith Orloff, MD: The Power of Surrender

Judith Orloff, M.D. is a psychiatrist, intuitive healer, and NY Times bestselling author. Her most recent book is the national bestseller The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life. In this interview, Judith explains what surrender really means, and how we can use it to find deeper intimacy, joy and…

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December 17, 2013
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The Power of the Gifts We Hide

Each of us creates a “false self” to protect our “true self” when it feels frightening to be genuine in the world. If our false self becomes dominant, it begins to bury the very qualities it was originally designed to protect. These buried qualities often hold the key to deeper love, creativity and meaning in…

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November 18, 2013
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The Two Best Questions For Your Sex Life

Often, the questions we ask of ourselves are what finally carve the shape of our lives. A great question excites us, opens new doors, and invites both compassion and curiosity. I’d like to offer two such questions about sex. Your answers will teach you rich lessons about your sex life—and more. read more

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October 21, 2013
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Creating an Intimacy-Rich Life: A Journey In Three Stages

In my practice as a psychotherapist, I’ve observed a remarkable pattern in the lives of people who strive for healthy intimacy. This pattern is marked by three important–and often surprising—stages. Each stage is a mark of real progress, yet few of us are taught how to navigate these challenges. I invite you to consider which…

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August 31, 2013
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Three Mindfulness Exercises to Improve Your Dating Life

The search for a loving partner is one of our great life-tasks. Yet most dating advice is superficial; focusing endlessly upon the power of seduction and flat abs. Here are three exercises which approach dating as an adventure of self-discovery. They are eye-opening and fun, and they will help you grow in self-respect while opening…

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August 2, 2013
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Seduction Strategies Don’t Lead to Love—These Skills Do

The search for love is one of our greatest life-tasks. Unfortunately, the quality of much dating advice and the atmosphere of most dating venues ranges from superficial to downright demeaning. The skills of dating are the skills of intimacy—not game-playing. These seven techniques will speed your path to love and strengthen your sense of self….

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