Ken Page, L.C.S.W.

Why Coming Out Isn’t Just For Gay People

ken — Sun, 05 May 2013 13:27:50 +0000

Jason Collins’ coming out electrified the country—for more than political reasons. Everyone wrestles with the struggle between fear and authenticity. Coming out is an act of heroism we’re all called to—and you don’t have to be gay to join the party. This post will offer a simple exercise for naming your “personal closets”, and gently liberating yourself from their hold.

From Demeaning Rules to Intimacy Tools: A Wiser Path to Love

ken — Thu, 14 Feb 2013 19:34:24 +0000

Valentines Day can be a challenging day for single people. But it can become a day of hope–if we resolve to ignore the bankrupt dating advice foisted upon us and finally align our search for love with the tools of real intimacy. The following three suggestions may fly in the face of most everything you’ve learned about dating–but they lead to real love.

How to Create Deep Intimacy In Imperfect Relationships

ken — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 13:52:53 +0000

Arielle Ford is the bestselling author of Wabi Sabi Love. In this interview, she teaches a simple and joyful way to deepen the relationships that matter most to us. Through gentle shifts in perception inspired by the ancient Japanese artform of Wabi Sabi, you can create profound healing in your relationships. Here’s how:

How To Find Your Core Gifts In Your Greatest Challenges

ken — Tue, 01 Jan 2013 12:15:21 +0000

On this first day of the New Year, I’d like to share a counter-intuitive approach to human change that I find tremendously exciting. Here is its central idea: Our deepest wounds frequently spring from our greatest gifts, and by acknowledging those gifts, we can speed and deepen our own healing.

Sunlight and Singing: A Holiday Wish Via T.S. Eliot

ken — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 19:30:09 +0000

This holiday season, I’d love to share an excerpt from a poem by T.S. Eliot that captures hope for the year ahead. Not greeting-card hope, but the kind of hope that can live alongside sadness, bewilderment and uncertainty.

The Healing Gift of Non-Gratitude

ken — Mon, 10 Dec 2012 12:00:56 +0000

Cultivating gratitude is a wonderful thing, but forced gratitude clouds our discrimination, and usually mutates into self-recrimination. We’re all exhorted to feel gratitude, but who teaches us to honor feelings of non-gratitude: emptiness, longing, or a gut-level sense that something’s wrong? These feelings hold half the key for achieving our most precious life-goals.

Chip Conley: Emotional Equations, Love and Meaning

ken — Sun, 07 Oct 2012 12:26:24 +0000

Chip Conley is the New York Times bestselling author of four books including Emotional Equations. In this interview, he teaches two emotional equations we can use to increase the intimacy in our lives and find meaning within our deepest personal challenges.

Four Signs That Healthy Love Is On Its Way

ken — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 17:27:23 +0000

I’ve found that four conditions often forecast the advent of real and healthy love. Love’s arrival feels like magic; a gift of luck. Yet we can invite that luck by approaching our dating life differently. If these shifts are happening for you, be encouraged. You’re probably well on the way to finding the kind of love that can last.

Why We Fear our Deepest Gifts

ken — Sat, 01 Sep 2012 13:33:28 +0000

Self-improvement is often no more than self-criticism in a terrific outfit. Our culture focuses obsessively on the endless allure of improvement, but there’s a much more thrilling area of inquiry: What parts of ourselves are aching for expression, and why do we flee their heat?